As Much as I Love Winter…

I’m totally over it.

Right now, as I type this, it’s 2ºC/34ºF. The house I moved into must be insulated with a sheet of paper or something because almost every morning for the past several weeks, it’s been like this. When I lived in Texas, this was a yearly occurrence. This was really nothing out of the usual for oh, maybe a week out of the year. It’s been ongoing here though. And I’m really sick of it.

My thinking is that you can always bundle up when you’re cold. When you’re hot, you have limited options to cool yourself off. It seems that I could wear 7 layers of clothes and still be cold. My husband and I freeze our tails off almost every single morning and getting up is a chore. I just managed to wake up early because I need to go to work. (I ended up working late last night, 11:30 pm late, and then having to go in this morning–but that’s okay. I get to work my fun job today.) It is freezing. I’ve got the heater going, but my fingers are like icicles.

That brings me to another issue. Remember how I am going back to the USA at the end of the year? That means that I get my winter from about June until the end of August here in Australia, then right when it’s going to warm up, I am heading for winter again. No good summer for me, but missing out on the flies might make it worth it. They’re pretty bad, but I’ve complained about that a lot already.

My favourite time of the year is usually winter-time, but I’ve decided that I only like winter when I’ve got a good heater. It’s times like this when I really miss the central heating I had in the USA. I’ve only had it one place I’ve lived in while I’ve been in Australia and stupid me didn’t even use it except twice.

Anyway, here’s hoping that I don’t trip and shatter into millions of pieces. Stay warm out there, my fellow Aussies.

#37: Shallow

I’ve always thought that by having preferences of who I am attracted to was considered shallow, so I struggled talking about what I found attractive in other people, physically and mentally. I talk a little about my past relationships as well and why I dated them and what I love about my current partner. My throat is a little sore in this one and it’s really noticeable at the end.

I’m in the process of moving things over to the new website, so I’ve stopped using the web-based player for now.

#36: Busy Bee

Super busy lately and kind of mentally disheveled. I talk about moving and being called a ‘housewife’ by the moving guys. (Wanted this to be short, since I’m depending on my mobile data now.) I’m also a little sad that my listener numbers are very small. Ideas anybody, before I stop caring?

I’m in the process of moving things over to the new website, so I’ve stopped using the web-based player for now.

Keep Movin’

This. Move. Is. Taking. Forever.

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One of the things that I’ve noticed is that I need more furniture. The place I’m moving is a lot bigger than I originally thought. It’s going to look very empty. When you live in a rural place like I do, it means that transporting furniture is not doable or very expensive. I’ve noticed that the people around here tend to hang on to their really old, dated furniture. As much as I like the antique look, it’s very heavy. I’m happy with IKEA-like stuff that doesn’t require much muscle to move.

The other thing is that we’re looking to move back to a bigger city next year sometime so if we do buy new furniture, we’ll have to pay out the nose to transport it. It’s a really weird situation.

I will be happy to get it finished. I went into work today though I’m off this week so I can complete this move. I noticed that I miss working. I set up my work week starting next week. I’ve got a 6 day work week coming up. I need the cash flow! Moving, even 2 km (approx. 1.3 miles) away, is expensive.

I’m going to try to record something for a podcast episode either today or tomorrow. Not sure when I’ll be able to upload it though. We’ll see. I’m still shooting for this Friday.

That’s what’s happening. I’ll see you guys later.

More GoFundMe Nonsense

Spongebob is anxious.

I’m in the middle of packing/moving and everything, but there is something on my mind.

I’m one of those people who, for the most part, believe that online fundraising can be a really great tool to raise money and awareness of diseases, disabilities, etc. It can help people recover after unexpected accidents, especially when, in the USA, medical expenses are so incredibly high. There’s a huge problem when you have to rely on online donations just to get the care and treatment you require to overcome any health issue, but that’s not something that the USA will understand. But that’s not the point of this post.

There are certain situations where online fundraising drives me crazy. I’ve talked about the time when a friend who didn’t speak with me for years wanted $500 for her son’s birthday party. If you read through that, you’ll know exactly how I feel. Basically, I say that paying utilities and such would be a better use of money. In that situation, you work within your means. As long as you do something, it’s not going to be overly traumatic for your kid(s).

Over the past few weeks, I’ve been getting requests like crazy. A lot of it is because Facebook (which I very reluctantly use) wants to attach a fundraiser to every birthday. Yeah, that’s a really great thing to do and if you can, you should (or could). No one should make you feel guilty that you didn’t or don’t want to. (Some people have actually tried this on me.)

Here’s my problem:

There are situations where I do want to help people out. I’ll admit, sometimes I do (for example, my cousin was hit by an intoxicated driver, so I sent over some cash). Where the problem lies is that I am working with and earn Australian dollars (AUD). For every $1 AUD, it is worth $0.70 US dollar (USD). Because I have to pay in USD, $100 ends up turning into $130 AUD. Then I end up having to pay more fees on top of that from the fundraising platform AND then even more fees from my bank. I end up paying a lot more for things that are based in the USA, so I choose to do so rarely.

Heeeeeere's Johnny!

So, now to the point, another friend who hasn’t spoken to me since I was around 17 or 18 keeps sending me a request to donate to something that I think is insanely stupid. Without saying too much, he’s had a falling out with his wife and she moved a few states over. I’m not sure why it happened, but it did. He’s been posting some pretty worrying things over the past two weeks or so and I don’t blame him. I’d be upset too if my husband had to move back to India and was okay with it because he didn’t want to be around me. Now, here’s the silly part. He wanted people to donate to a fund to get him an RV camper so he could move to the state where she is. (He’s also posting old wedding photos of the both of them and putting them as his profile picture, so that in itself is a bit worrying.) They have kids together so I can understand that he wants to be closer. I would want to do that too. To me, it’s a little bit too unhealthy. No one’s donated though and that’s probably why. The reason I don’t is because I don’t want to pay out the nose to send a small amount and also I don’t think they have the most healthy relationship right now. I don’t know anything, but yeah, it happened for a reason. And this isn’t like a 1 hour drive distance, it’s like a 12 hour drive…. at LEAST! I find it incredible that he’s taking this approach rather than bettering himself so that maybe, just maybe, his wife and he can patch things up or whatever.

Let me get this straight though, I do give to just causes and what I consider as a just cause will differ from everybody else. My cousin’s medical expenses? A just cause to donate. An RV so someone can potentially stalk their wife that they’ve separated from? Eh, no thanks.

People just need to really think these things through before they make an online fundraiser for it. Sadly, they don’t and they end up getting themselves down when they can’t raise $20 of the $27,990 they need. Someone suggested that I make a fundraiser to fly my mom here, but I couldn’t bring myself to do it. Honestly, I’d rather someone donate to Immigration Equality or to Parkinson’s Australia and pay for her stuff myself since I am fully capable of working and saving money.

That’s all–not worth saving for a podcast episode. Not entirely sure when the next one will be at the moment. 😉 Hope all is well.

#35: Hypochondriasis

I talk about my ongoing adventure with the doctor and my gastrointestinal system. Am I going to ignore the referral because my tests came back fine, or go anyway? I gently touch upon my one-year anniversary, having my husband come back, and what’s been keeping me busy.

I’m in the process of moving things over to the new website, so I’ve stopped using the web-based player for now.

The Mastodon in the Room

As if I didn’t have enough social media accounts, I’ve added another one. This time, it’s Mastodon. Basically, Mastodon is an open source social network. It’s similar to Instagram, Twitter, and etc but unlike those services, it is decentralised.

If you use Mastodon, or if you’re curious about what it is, my profile is here.

@complicatednoise@mastodon.social

Possibly see you around there?

Hi, July!

July this year is going to be rough. If you’ve been listening to my podcast episodes lately, you’ll know that I’m going to be packing up my house for the next two weeks. I am trying to be moved by or on the 20th and I’m pretty sure I can make that deadline.

Unfortunately, with moves, it means that there’s a potential for gaps without internet access at home (and sometimes, without electricity, like last time). It means that I’ll be a little busier than usual so the podcast episode schedule I have might need to be altered.

Something else exciting is happening this month (actually, in a few days). My partner and I are going to be celebrating our first anniversary of being married. I wanted to talk about that in one of my upcoming episodes and I’m hoping that I can get him to chat with you as well. I don’t know whether I’ll be successful at that, but gosh darn it, I’ll try!

One of the things I’ve been wanting to talk about is what it’s like being with someone with a very different culture than mine and my observations so far. I haven’t said much about it because I don’t want to come across as ignorant because let’s face it, I don’t know everything about Indian culture and sometimes I come across as very naive about a few things. I find arranged marriages fascinating and like to hear stories about them. As the years have passed, it’s something that I understand a little better.

So, happy anniversary to my love. I still love you lots! I miss you too. (He’s in India right now and coming back at the end of the week.)

I’ve gotten through rough times before and it’s been so much easier with such a supportive guy next to me. I can and will do this!

I’ll catch you guys and girls later. I might move the next episode to be earlier since I’ll be busy the day that it’s going to be posted. We’ll see. Keep an eyeball out on the episode guide to see what’s coming up!

#34: Consoling Console

I talk about what’s been stressing me lately such as work, my health, moving, traveling, and a lack of sleep. I also talk about my newest toys/gadgets, gaming online subscriptions, DLC, Nintendo Switch stuff, and virtual currency. Yeah, quite a grab bag here.

I’m in the process of moving things over to the new website, so I’ve stopped using the web-based player for now.

Days and Days of Delays

Ooops! Sorry for that last blog post (which has been deleted now). I had planned to tell you about Complicated Noise a long time ago, but kept moving the publish date when I knew that things weren’t running on schedule. They still aren’t, actually.

A few things have been happening that are causing a lot of delays and July is already promising to be a very challenging month. I’ll talk more about that in the next Complicated Noise episode. I’m trying my best to keep up with everything and to keep my head together. Please be patient with me in the meantime.

I’ll be back with you guys soon. I’m trying so hard to get the new podcast website working. See you a bit later!

Update: Episode #34: Consoling Console will be here on Wednesday morning.