It’s another one of those times where I’ve written about 4 or 5 posts, but didn’t post them. A lot of them basically said “Welcome to February” and one of them was a post about all the nice things you can do for your partner to let them know how much you love them every day instead of Valentine’s Day. I realised that they sounded a bit corny, but they tend to work quite well. I guess I could share a few of the things I did to keep my longest-lasting relationship together for as long as I did. But then I remember how much of a struggle it was to keep it glued together for the second half.
It’s all around you…
I have never been a big Valentine’s Day kind of guy. Luckily, the boyfriends (and even girlfriends) I’ve had also don’t put too much emphasis on the day either. It’s not that I’m cheap or anything, but I believe that there are 364 (sometimes 365) other days to spread the love. Sure, you can’t run to the store and buy bears that say “I love you” or candy in heart-shaped boxes, but at the end of the day, does any of that matter when it comes to showing your partner that you care?
Speaking of that, a lot of times my partner was either gone on that day or I was over here. My best friend and I would do something really corny. Sometimes we’d go looking for candy and fart up and down the candy aisles at the store.
Oh! My little ideas on how you can show your partner that you care? Here they are:
Say “I love you”
I don’t know about being told that someone loves me all the time. Hearing it over and over gets a bit old so I keep my “I love you”s a bit quiet. But, if I live with my partner, I like saying it before I go to sleep at night. I remember when I was with my past partner I would do this every night when we were together. I do like to hear it at least once a day. Sometimes I like hearing it more, but before I sleep is the best.
Going Out and About
I like to call myself a cheap date, because I am. I have never been a big fan of going to expensive restaurants. I always appreciated going to small, cheap restaurants with my partner. As long as it was good, that was good enough for me. In Australia, I love going to KFC and J already knows this. I love spending time together where we’re not gloating over how good the food is and just enjoying each other’s company. To me, that’s the most important part of going out to eat–to enjoy the other person’s company.
A lot of people like spontaneous sex, you know, like surprise sex just whenever you feel like it. That’s always a good thing but sometimes I like to plan it, especially when we’re both busy. It gives me time to think about it. I think about all the things that we can do and also all the new things we can try. It works up until it’s unbearable and at the time when we finally do it, I am really excited about it. It works out pretty well, but I’d hate for things to be a bit planned all the time.
Notes, Everywhere, Notes!
One of my favourite things to do is to write little notes and hide them in my partner’s stuff. I write little notes and stick them in socks, underwear, books, in the bottom of a bag, or something like that. I did this with my last ex a lot and when he was having a bad day, he’d come across one and he’d send me a message saying how sweet it was and how he was having a bad day up until then. I think it’s a sweet thing to do. They weren’t always super sweet though. A lot of times, they were silly. Mostly they were sweet. It seemed to work out well for us.
You see? It is the small things that matter. Sometimes this stuff costs nothing. It’s all about showing love. Though I’m not with J right now, we have a lot to make up when I get back. I miss the guy quite a lot and he’s been wonderful while I’ve been here. I have chatted with his handsome face every day since I’ve been here. Sometimes we snip back and forth, but I guess that’s just part of being in a relationship.
So, hopefully, I would have told you something new. And if these things are not new to you, hopefully it will remind you to do small little things for the person/people you love. After all, it’s the month of love!
Oh, and did you see my new blog look? It’s full of hearts and red!
And if you want to buy that red heart paperweight (which is hand made), you can get it at Amazon!