Reshuffling This Wedding Kerfuffle

Since the US presidential election and the politicians of Texas’s need to protect the state from things that aren’t godly, I’ve done a lot of thinking about how I am going to handle my wedding plans. The main reason why I wanted it to happen in Texas is so that my relatives and friends could be there for it, assuming I made a firm plan to do the whole marriage ritual thing. I haven’t made up my mind whether I wanted to do the marriage ceremony thing, or a celebratory thing afterwards. I’ve said before that I usually don’t like being the centre of attention unless I’ve got a dangerously high blood alcohol level. I don’t want to be that drunk on the day.

Lately, there have been talk about a stupid, unnecessary opinion poll about whether two adults of the same sex can get married or not here in Australia. To save you time from reading it, I said I don’t like this poll, but if I actually happens, marriage equality has my full support, obviously.

Assuming that passes and the government in power start to do the job they’re elected to do (still bitter), and marriage equality happens, I’m thinking to do it here–the first chance we get. Then, next year, I’ll do a small celebratory thing in the USA. I probably will have to talk this over with my immediate family first. I probably should talk about this with my partner as well! Haha.

As I said, these are just thoughts floating around in my head. I still don’t have dates. In fact, the dates have been scattered even more than before. This isn’t really good when you’re a planner.

I was also looking for a reason to use the word kerfuffle too. ­čśë

Who’s First?

I’m typing this from my partner’s brother’s place. I’m staying there tonight. It’s not such a big deal though because I do this every few weeks. Our place didn’t get flooded or burned down or anything. It’s just one of those things I try to do every so often. There’s usually quite a push from him to get it to happen. Today, it was actually one of the causes of our arguments.

Something that people who know me in real life know that I’m not the most social creature around. Some people know that I am happy being by myself 90-95% of the time. It’s not that I hate people, but I really like my solitude. I mean, I really like it.

He tends to think that it’s really easy to get me out and in front of people outside work. He thinks all my friends see me every time they ask. You can ask any of them whether I see them every time they ask or how many times I cancel on them. It’s not that I don’t like them, it’s just that I require a whole lot of “me” time and I like that time. I even need regular breaks from my partner so I usually send him over here by himself. If gives me that time I require.

I’m not so sure where it stems from. Maybe it’s that my parents didn’t really encourage me to go out and socialize. I know for a fact that my mom, sister, and me are the same way I am. My dad was a lot better. It’s not something I do well and have tried to be better at, but I’m not. I’d go months without seeing the key people in my life. That includes family when I am in Texas.

He reminds me that Indian families aren’t really like that and I need to change my mind frame in regards to seeing people who are family. It’s really difficult for me to do. What I don’t like is how he told me today that he’s just going to tell them that I don’t like them and I don’t like coming to their place which isn’t true. It’s really infuriating because that’s a lie. I did make a compromise today and came here to make him happy when otherwise I wouldn’t have bothered because the arguments we had earlier make me even less likely to want to do things for him. Things are fine now though. I’m about to head to bed but I’m definitely going to post this a few hours into the future.

Good night!

An Expensive, Unnecessary, Taxpayer-Funded Opinion Poll for Marriage Equality?

It looks like the Australian government’s same-sex marriage plebiscite thing has a chance of happening. In case you’re too lazy to click the link, basically it’s an opinion poll whether voters think that the law should be amended to allow same-sex couples to marry.

Is it a good way to gauge the enrolled voters’ opinion? Or should they just read any of the opinion polls that were done for the past ten years and realise that people want and have wanted this to happen and save the $122,000,000 (or more) it will cost to run this unnecessary opinion poll?

I have a few problems with this little proposition the government has put forward.

This opinion poll is non-binding meaning, if people in a certain electorate vote to amend the law (“YES”), but the representative thinks two people of the same-sex are icky and need a new, heavy Bible, then they can vote against it in Parliament. If it was binding, that would make me feel a lot better about it. It’s still an awful idea–unless they add something else to the “ballot” (or questionnaire, really) like euthanasia.

This opinion poll is a hotbed for disrespect on BOTH sides of the fence. There is going to be a lot of nastiness, disrespect, and hatred being spewed out from this. I can’t really see a respectful debate happening from a lot of people.

The law, when it was changed from neutral to a man + woman, wasn’t changed in the same process.┬áNo one asked the public what they thought. No money was spent for one person to make the decision for the rest of us. It was changed in one day (which COULD BE DONE TODAY IF ONLY THE LIBERALS WOULD ALLOW IT) by someone who is afraid of change.

This opinion poll (and I’m calling it that because that’s what it is–an expensive opinion poll, but I’ll get to that later) is not compulsory like other elections are. Since it’s not classified as a “real” election, people living overseas can’t just waltz into an embassy in another country and vote. That’s a big problem for those men and women who had to leave Australia to marry their partner because they couldn’t do it here.

It’s expensive. I’d much, much, MUCH rather see my tax money being spent on something else than an opinion poll. There are so many other things that money can be spent on:

  • Health care
  • Homelessness
  • Animal welfare
  • Domestic abuse
  • Drug/alcohol programs
  • Domestic violence programs
  • Training new medical staff
  • Funding aged care and senior pensioners
  • Renewable energy
  • Mental health services
  • Disability services
  • Child protection services
  • Better communication infrastructure
  • Better transportation infrastructure
  • …you get my point

This opinion poll will be rife with fraud. The Prime Minister said in the past that would be a big problem with it. So now, he’s okay with it? Is that right? Because he knows that if he goes along with a free vote, he’ll lose power since it’s the zealots who are keeping him in power and they’re the ones pulling the strings?

As a gay man myself, I feel very unhappy, upset, and angry because it came to this point. If the PM would allow a free vote, it could happen today, but as I said, he has to make the religious nut jobs who keep him in power happy. I guess what I’m saying is that he has no backbone, he’s weak, and doesn’t stand up for what he, himself, believes is right.

I really hope that the government party in power right now get voted out next time. I’m tired of them. I’m tired of this. I hope he loses his job and quits politics. Marriage equality should have happened a LONG TIME AGO in this country.

Though I don’t like it, I’ll still participate in this little poll. I still think it’s incredibly dumb, expensive, and a waste of money but if that’s what it takes to get marriage equality to happen in this country, then I’ll do it. To me, boycotting this stupid process isn’t worth it.

Mac = Media Frenzy

Owning a new Mac gives me an uncontrollable urge to make things. I’ve tried podcasting a few times in the past and it went well the first time around. It was an exciting time of my life when I was moving from the USA to Australia, and I was in a relationship with someone who I probably needed to call it quits on. It was interesting. It was fun recording them with my friends in Texas.

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Not gonna happen, still.

Then, all of a sudden something happened and I stopped. I think it was just a case of “Why bother?” And I stopped. Later, I decided to do another one under a new name, and my heart just wasn’t in it. I felt like they were forced and I’d go into them with not much to say. It made for some really boring listening material. So many people at the time did them and they did so much better than I did. (That’s okay and it’s not meant to be negative. It’s just true.)

Every so often I go back to considering whether I want to record again. The answer has been no every time. The answer is still no.

Something that I have learned from my university studies is video production. I’ve been wanting to do something with it, but haven’t done much yet. I will though. I made my partner’s last cooking video very quickly because he was thinking about making a cooking channel on YouTube. I recorded it with my phone, and fired up iMovie, to make a simple video. (No, I wasn’t trained to use iMovie. I am trained in Premiere Pro and After Effects.) Most of that was to see whether he could explain to people how to cook Indian food. He did an okay job though. It was an excellent first attempt for him. I’ve been trying to talk him into doing something, but he’s always got other pressing matters to tend to–pressing matters that he refuses to acknowledge so I am nagging him a lot lately.

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I’m also thinking of making gameplay videos at some point, but I’m not really sure 100% about that. I don’t want to really become rich and famous or anything. I just want to be able to do something that I enjoy, I guess you could say, and then edit it into a beautiful-ish masterpiece. (We know a masterpiece won’t happen!)

So it’s all about media. I am just thinking of what I want to do. If you have suggestions for me, you can comment here, or send me an email.

PS: Amateur porn probably isn’t going to happen.

Happy Birthday to My Other Half

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Your Name Here is such a nice name. I wish that was my name.

Somebody’s got a birthday today! Hint: It’s not me. Luckily, I have the day off today but have to get up at an unreasonable time in the morning (4 am), so I’ll be spending as much time as I can with my partner during the daytime hours.

We’re going out, but I don’t know where. I guess it’s going to be wherever he wants. I’ll have to hobble everywhere because I pulled my left calf muscle (look at the anatomical position)… while I was in bed… while watching YouTube videos. It was the worst pain I’ve been in before. I must need more potassium and magnesium. Banana bread with walnuts will do it!

Anyway, this is short and sweet today. I need to finish off a bit of my work and head off. I hope everybody is doing well and a lot better than how my body has been treating me lately.

Were you looking for ultra, sickenly sweet stuff here? I live to disappoint. ­čÖé

They Put the Charging Port Where?

Not that I’ve had to recharge my Magic Mouse yet, but decided that I would do it anyway. My keyboard and mouse that I got with my iMac were about 90% charged when I got them, so I thought I’d just let them run out of juice before I charge them again. Impatient me wouldn’t let it happen.

The keyboard is a bit better. I wanted the full-sized keyboard, but didn’t want the 2 extra weeks it would take them to pack it in the box. Charging my keyboard is fine. No big problem there. Why? Because the charging port is in a logical place.

Apple Magic Keyboard
Probably the most logical place to put a charging port. Way to go, Apple!

With the Magic Mouse, the charging port isn’t really in a logical place. But, really, where could they have put it? (Hint: probably on the side)

Apple Magic Mouse 2
So what happens when this is a person’s ONLY mouse? Do they just have to wait until it charges? (I don’t really think that it takes very long to charge, but still, have to bitch about something.)

Honestly, I’m not a big fan of this mouse. I had another Magic Mouse but it was the first version of it. I didn’t really like that one either. It didn’t work very well with Monstro, my old Mac Pro. A friend of mine borrowed it and never bothered to return it, so yeah.

So what do I use? I use this old, worn out thing:

Beat-up, reliable optical Dell mouse
Trusty, reliable, old Dell mouse that I think I’ve had since I’ve first arrived in Australia. It doesn’t have a rubber ball or I wouldn’t be using it. I can’t go back to that!

The putting charging ports in stupid places isn’t only an Apple thing either. My Sony Xperia Z3 has it on the side. That’s not such a bad problem until you realize that the cover on it hinges on that side, so you can’t charge it with its cover closed. (I’m turning this phone into a home security camera, by the way.)

Usually Apple gets the design of their products right. The Magic Mouse is my only problem so far. This new computer has been awesome so far. I should be getting a delivery of memory in a few days to boost its performance. Right now, I have 8 GB of memory installed and have run into no problems so far. I’m going to put in another 32 GB of ┬ámemory into this thing, then later, replace the 8 GB with another 32 GB. Crazy! I haven’t owned a computer with more than 8 GB of memory. Even 8 GB in my laptop was starting to do a terrible job.

That’s all from me at the moment. I’m just working on some video-related stuff now, since I have a computer that won’t choke on video editing software.

Gay Money

I posted a pretty interesting question on Twitter yesterday that said:

...does the USA or Texas deserve my gay foreign money?

gaymoneySomething that you probably already know is that I, like 64% of Americans, hate the current direction of US politics. We have an ineffective leader who is more interested in keeping his own interests afloat and making those with the inability to distinguish the difference between church and state happy. We have a man who is too busy making himself look good rather than making our country look good in control, something that I never thought would happen. We have a man who claims to be a LGBT+ ally, yet disrespects people in our community every chance he gets.

One of the things I am most afraid of is planning my wedding there and some religious nut job getting his way where it can’t happen. He’s already attacking trans people and trying to dismantle my right to marry the man I love.

I don’t like this feeling.┬á

I’m rethinking whether I want to get married in Texas or not because I don’t agree with our hateful politicians. The services and goods I purchase there (plus the taxes I pay) go back to paying this never-ending cycle of hate. I don’t really want to be a part of that. It’s a bit sad because I wanted to do it locally for my family, but I am not confident in the USA (or Texas) anymore. I just don’t.

Why should I give more of my money to them if I can avoid it completely? (As a US citizen, I’m still required to pay tax on foreign earned income.)

I don’t see things getting better. I see them getting worse–a lot worse. So I’m going to back away with caution for now and either wait for marriage equality here in Australia, or jump across to New Zealand and do it there. Maybe then, I can go to the USA with some Oreos from here (proudly made in China) and have a cookies and water party.

I’d much rather spend money in a country that has laws protecting the people of my community. Though I can’t get married here, I still have more legal protections here than I would in the USA, simply because of who I love.

My Stuff, Delivered. Or Not.

Let me preface this by saying that I hate having anything delivered in Australia. There’s so much I can complain and bitch about right now. Late last week, I ordered some office furniture because my iMac is sitting on something that resembles a little cart you’d put a microwave on. It has wheels. It’s quite convenient, but I am a little afraid that I’ll wheel it somewhere and BAM, it will fall to the ground. It’s not something I really want to happen.

So yes, I ordered 3 desks knowing that I would be away from home most of the next week. I thought my stuff would arrive on Friday. Well, over the weekend I got an email saying that it was being prepared for shipping, so I thought they’d get to it on Tuesday or something. Well, no, they sent it from the warehouse on Monday morning. The warehouse is really close too, so they tried delivering it on Monday. That was okay, the worst they can do is leave one of those cards that say “WHERE THE FUCK ARE YOU?”. They tried again on Tuesday. I called them that day and said, that I wasn’t expecting it to be delivered so early and needed it delivered Friday. They said they made a note of it. Well, they tried to deliver it again on Wednesday so finally I said fuck it and came home to wait for them to drop it all off. So here I am.

During this process, I would check my orders with the company I bought it from online and discovered that my order wasn’t found in the system 90% of the time. My account said that I had no orders. I was worrying whether I’d ever see my furniture or not.

I am just pissed that these companies don’t really communicate with you. They tell you a week, and you expect a week, so you plan on leaving the area until then. I mean, if I were at home, that wouldn’t be such a bad thing. It would be nice to get your stuff early. Not this time. I get to sit around again waiting for it to show up.

So maybe tomorrow I’ll be assembling desks. Or maybe not. Who the hell knows what’s happening anymore?

KFC Ruins My Day Again

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Screw you guys, I’m going home… and then getting KFC because I like to suffer.

The last few weeks were hectic and my last day of training (for now) has come and gone. Unfortunately, my last day didn’t go as well as I expected. You see, I have a certain love for a certain fast-food restaurant in Australia called KFC. Yes, that’s Kentucky Fried Chicken. It’s a really gross habit, but for some reason, I love it. To make matters even worse, it’s a 2 minute walk away from where I live, so there is really easy access. The night before, I decided that I was going to eat it knowing that sometimes it upsets my stomach. (I have a really sensitive stomach. I always have had one.) So I ended up filling my belly full of grease the night before and starting at 3 am, my gastrointestinal tract was in full payback mode. I was throwing up and on the toilet most of the morning. I didn’t have any cramps or fever, but my body was just rejecting what I ate the night before.

I got to my training place feeling completely drained (literally) and told someonee I wasn’t feeling that great. They asked me why and I told them what my morning was like and that I was really, really tired. They told me to leave, so I did. I spent my morning trying to get that under control, trying to book a doctor’s appointment nearby (my usual doctor is about an hour and a half away), and just running around. I wasn’t having any major problems at all. The doctor told me that I cannot go back for 24 hours, so that was that. I was really upset because the hours I miss, I have to make up.

Everybody at the place I went to thought I had gastroenteritis (some people call it a stomach flu) but I pretty much knew that it was just a mix of eating the wrong thing the night before and my anxiety of finally getting to the end of this part of my training. So yeah, I was pretty bummed out for the whole day and it carried over until today. My belly is okay but still a bit grumbly.

So yeah, it’s time for me to relax a little bit and start the long, boring process of getting my paperwork together and finally getting to use my new iMac. Guys, the resolution on this thing is simply incredible! It’s good to go back to Mac.

It’s good to be able to spend some time with my partner too, though I’ve been glued to this screen. He’s a good sport.

I still love you, KFC. Don’t worry, we’ll always be together. 5ever.

The Semi-Irregular July Update

It’s been a while since I sat down and wrote a post here, so I thought I’d write at least something while I have a few minutes of extra time. Quite a bit is happening around me at the moment which would explain my absence from my weblog (and other messengers). I’m just closing up the first part of my training to become better at my primary job. It’s actually nice to get back into it full-time again, but it’s really exhausting. I am also back to shift work which means that I go in tonight, leave, then wake up about 6 hours later to start the process all over again. Not fun, but it comes with the type of work I do, so I can’t complain too much.

People Person

I realised that I probably isolate myself from people a lot more than I should. I think working in IT will do that to a person, especially when they work for themselves and work from home. I would just attend a meeting or two per week, and then that was most of my social interaction. At the same time, my main career was on hold and ignored. I do like what I do, but I think sometimes my anxiety and social anxiety likes to take over at times and it just makes me panic a bit. I’m trying so hard to bust through it so I can live a life where my gut isn’t all messed up all the time, and I can be a bit more of a social person.

New Technology

To support my ongoing work in IT, I decided to get myself one of the 27 inch iMacs (the ones with the 5k display). I haven’t had much time to sit around and mess with it though which is really, really hard for me because I really love getting stuff in the mail, and better yet, I love opening boxes with new computer equipment. I think the first thing I did was install Steam and Starbound. I don’t even think that I bothered updating anything else after I opened it. There really wasn’t too many software updates since this computer is basically a month from being released.

So far, so good. It’s so much easier on my eyes.

I still have my 24 inch iMac sitting on the floor and feel a little sorry for it. He’s 10 years old this year and it still works really well despite having to replace the hard drive and a sometimes-malfunctioning graphics card. I don’t know what to do with it yet. I did sell it to my partner for $150 but it’s nice to have around. I used it for the whole day over the weekend and it was really well-behaved. It made me feel bad that I was replacing him, but 10 years is a really good run, wouldn’t you say?

Upcoming Vacation

My partner and I are heading off to Mornington Peninsula after my training completes. We haven’t had too much time together since he’s been back, so this will be good. I keep getting a little snippy with him because of my workload and the fact that I need to do about 12 things at one time. He’s been really good to me and he’s done a lot even though he’s still a bit sore from his surgery. He takes care of me very well but maybe it’s not working the other way around right now. I expect to get back into the groove of things once things calm down around here.


So for now, that’s it. I still have a while to go, so hopefully I can post sooner. There are a ton of things on my mind which have the unfortunate side effect of knowing not what to say when I have so much to say. It makes it really hard. A lot of those things are just emotions and thoughts about people in general and I guess a little bit about my mental health too. I think sometimes it’s good to get those things out in the open, but right now, I just need to stay calm and collect those thoughts for another day!