More GoFundMe Nonsense

Spongebob is anxious.

I’m in the middle of packing/moving and everything, but there is something on my mind.

I’m one of those people who, for the most part, believe that online fundraising can be a really great tool to raise money and awareness of diseases, disabilities, etc. It can help people recover after unexpected accidents, especially when, in the USA, medical expenses are so incredibly high. There’s a huge problem when you have to rely on online donations just to get the care and treatment you require to overcome any health issue, but that’s not something that the USA will understand. But that’s not the point of this post.

There are certain situations where online fundraising drives me crazy. I’ve talked about the time when a friend who didn’t speak with me for years wanted $500 for her son’s birthday party. If you read through that, you’ll know exactly how I feel. Basically, I say that paying utilities and such would be a better use of money. In that situation, you work within your means. As long as you do something, it’s not going to be overly traumatic for your kid(s).

Over the past few weeks, I’ve been getting requests like crazy. A lot of it is because Facebook (which I very reluctantly use) wants to attach a fundraiser to every birthday. Yeah, that’s a really great thing to do and if you can, you should (or could). No one should make you feel guilty that you didn’t or don’t want to. (Some people have actually tried this on me.)

Here’s my problem:

There are situations where I do want to help people out. I’ll admit, sometimes I do (for example, my cousin was hit by an intoxicated driver, so I sent over some cash). Where the problem lies is that I am working with and earn Australian dollars (AUD). For every $1 AUD, it is worth $0.70 US dollar (USD). Because I have to pay in USD, $100 ends up turning into $130 AUD. Then I end up having to pay more fees on top of that from the fundraising platform AND then even more fees from my bank. I end up paying a lot more for things that are based in the USA, so I choose to do so rarely.

Heeeeeere's Johnny!

So, now to the point, another friend who hasn’t spoken to me since I was around 17 or 18 keeps sending me a request to donate to something that I think is insanely stupid. Without saying too much, he’s had a falling out with his wife and she moved a few states over. I’m not sure why it happened, but it did. He’s been posting some pretty worrying things over the past two weeks or so and I don’t blame him. I’d be upset too if my husband had to move back to India and was okay with it because he didn’t want to be around me. Now, here’s the silly part. He wanted people to donate to a fund to get him an RV camper so he could move to the state where she is. (He’s also posting old wedding photos of the both of them and putting them as his profile picture, so that in itself is a bit worrying.) They have kids together so I can understand that he wants to be closer. I would want to do that too. To me, it’s a little bit too unhealthy. No one’s donated though and that’s probably why. The reason I don’t is because I don’t want to pay out the nose to send a small amount and also I don’t think they have the most healthy relationship right now. I don’t know anything, but yeah, it happened for a reason. And this isn’t like a 1 hour drive distance, it’s like a 12 hour drive…. at LEAST! I find it incredible that he’s taking this approach rather than bettering himself so that maybe, just maybe, his wife and he can patch things up or whatever.

Let me get this straight though, I do give to just causes and what I consider as a just cause will differ from everybody else. My cousin’s medical expenses? A just cause to donate. An RV so someone can potentially stalk their wife that they’ve separated from? Eh, no thanks.

People just need to really think these things through before they make an online fundraiser for it. Sadly, they don’t and they end up getting themselves down when they can’t raise $20 of the $27,990 they need. Someone suggested that I make a fundraiser to fly my mom here, but I couldn’t bring myself to do it. Honestly, I’d rather someone donate to Immigration Equality or to Parkinson’s Australia and pay for her stuff myself since I am fully capable of working and saving money.

That’s all–not worth saving for a podcast episode. Not entirely sure when the next one will be at the moment. 😉 Hope all is well.

#35: Hypochondriasis

I talk about my ongoing adventure with the doctor and my gastrointestinal system. Am I going to ignore the referral because my tests came back fine, or go anyway? I gently touch upon my one-year anniversary, having my husband come back, and what’s been keeping me busy.

I’m in the process of moving things over to the new website, so I’ve stopped using the web-based player for now.

The Mastodon in the Room

As if I didn’t have enough social media accounts, I’ve added another one. This time, it’s Mastodon. Basically, Mastodon is an open source social network. It’s similar to Instagram, Twitter, and etc but unlike those services, it is decentralised.

If you use Mastodon, or if you’re curious about what it is, my profile is here.

@complicatednoise@mastodon.social

Possibly see you around there?

Hi, July!

July this year is going to be rough. If you’ve been listening to my podcast episodes lately, you’ll know that I’m going to be packing up my house for the next two weeks. I am trying to be moved by or on the 20th and I’m pretty sure I can make that deadline.

Unfortunately, with moves, it means that there’s a potential for gaps without internet access at home (and sometimes, without electricity, like last time). It means that I’ll be a little busier than usual so the podcast episode schedule I have might need to be altered.

Something else exciting is happening this month (actually, in a few days). My partner and I are going to be celebrating our first anniversary of being married. I wanted to talk about that in one of my upcoming episodes and I’m hoping that I can get him to chat with you as well. I don’t know whether I’ll be successful at that, but gosh darn it, I’ll try!

One of the things I’ve been wanting to talk about is what it’s like being with someone with a very different culture than mine and my observations so far. I haven’t said much about it because I don’t want to come across as ignorant because let’s face it, I don’t know everything about Indian culture and sometimes I come across as very naive about a few things. I find arranged marriages fascinating and like to hear stories about them. As the years have passed, it’s something that I understand a little better.

So, happy anniversary to my love. I still love you lots! I miss you too. (He’s in India right now and coming back at the end of the week.)

I’ve gotten through rough times before and it’s been so much easier with such a supportive guy next to me. I can and will do this!

I’ll catch you guys and girls later. I might move the next episode to be earlier since I’ll be busy the day that it’s going to be posted. We’ll see. Keep an eyeball out on the episode guide to see what’s coming up!

#34: Consoling Console

I talk about what’s been stressing me lately such as work, my health, moving, traveling, and a lack of sleep. I also talk about my newest toys/gadgets, gaming online subscriptions, DLC, Nintendo Switch stuff, and virtual currency. Yeah, quite a grab bag here.

I’m in the process of moving things over to the new website, so I’ve stopped using the web-based player for now.

Days and Days of Delays

Ooops! Sorry for that last blog post (which has been deleted now). I had planned to tell you about Complicated Noise a long time ago, but kept moving the publish date when I knew that things weren’t running on schedule. They still aren’t, actually.

A few things have been happening that are causing a lot of delays and July is already promising to be a very challenging month. I’ll talk more about that in the next Complicated Noise episode. I’m trying my best to keep up with everything and to keep my head together. Please be patient with me in the meantime.

I’ll be back with you guys soon. I’m trying so hard to get the new podcast website working. See you a bit later!

Update: Episode #34: Consoling Console will be here on Wednesday morning.

Complicated Serving

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Just a heads up that you might start seeing files being served from ComplicatedNoise.com soon. I’m in the process of moving all the audio, video, images, and database junk there. I’m still working on the core site, so the web app isn’t available just yet.

If anything gives you any trouble in the next month or two, just let me know.

Counting Down the Days

Hey there! Over the past few days, I’ve done a few little updates here and there. One of them is that I’ve re-added a countdown of when I am going back to the USA. I’ve also updated my upcoming travel plans for my own amusement. It’s more about helping me get my head around how much time I have left before I go back.

I’ve got about 162 days left before I head off and believe me, I’m counting them down. I’m incredibly eager to go this time. It might be that I’ve got a handful of “new” relatives to meet or maybe it’s just that I’m quite eager to get out of this small town for a while (you know, to go to another small town). Maybe I just need an extended break from work or something.

I’m actually in a much better financial position to do these things now but unfortunately, the currency exchange is horrible. Right now, Every $1 I bring with me is worth $0.70 US. That means that I’ll end up paying about 30% more for everything or if I want $5000 USD, I’ll need to bring $7143 AUD. Add the fact that you have to tip everybody for smiling at you and taxes aren’t added to anything until the very end, you’re looking at a pretty hefty premium to go to the USA. I planned to have a few thousand dollars to do things with, but I’m afraid that won’t even be enough. I’ve put back all my living costs while I’m gone (since I am not entitled to annual leave). I work at my workplace as casual which means I am paid more to make up for it. My pay is about 125% more than the base wage for what I do. Anyway, I’ve been throwing around the idea of getting a part-time seasonal job while I’m there and then quitting in the most lavish way possible.

I’m planning to do a few things this time. I’m planning to stay a few days in New Orleans with my family. It’s going to be really fun. I’ve lived pretty close to there most of my childhood and early adulthood, but I never spent any time there. It’ll be a good experience. I don’t know when, but it’s definitely on my list of things to do.

I’m not even sure if I’ll be around at this time of the year. (This is Mardi Gras–not the Sydney one though.)

As you can see, I am really happy to be able to get back. I’m missing my mom and sister something fierce. I’ve been having a lot of dreams about my family.

I’m also pretty excited that my husband will be going for a few weeks too. I can’t wait to have him see where I grew up. I’ve warned him about a lot of things, but have also said a lot of nice things too. I guess I’m gonna have to ask people back home where to go and what to do for someone who’s never been to the USA.

#33: Thrown Into the Unknown

A lot of things are happening at once. Someone bought the house we’ve been living in and we have to move soon. We’re also getting a new car and my partner’s leaving for India for a month. My stress levels are through the roof! I spend most of this episode thinking about things and how my time here might be extended. I also talk about my new toys and new recording equipment. After the break, I talk about the car and that I’m also having some slight health issues as well which makes me a little sad. (Possible hospital stay coming up…)

Fishing for Feedback

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Do you listen to my podcast? Would you mind answering a few little questions about it? You don’t even have to provide your personal information if you don’t want to. (Well, you can if you want to or want me to create an account for you.)

I’m mostly looking for new ideas and improving on what I’m already doing.

As I’ve always said, I’m not looking to make podcasting my career or anything like that. I am, however, interested in developing the underlying software so that perhaps I can sell a service at some point (to other podcasters, audio providers, etc). I just want to be entertaining enough in the meantime too!

So, if you would be so kind, could you fill out the few questions, and optionally, if you’re interested, I can set you up with an account to help do a little testing?

Nevermind – I changed my mind 😉

Thanks heaps! (And no, I don’t know the muscly Indian guy with the fish. I swear to you that I was looking for pictures of the fishing nets in Kerala but yeah, this caught my attention.)