Housemate Compatibility Craziness

Sorry for that, folks. My GI tract decided it was going to give me problems for a few days, so I didn’t have the time or energy to do much. I really wish that I wasn’t cursed with a stomach that can go from perfectly okay one minute to absolutely shitty (literally) the next. I had to waste my morning sitting in a room with sick people to see the doctor for less than 2 minutes. Seriously. 2 minutes, of course, I basically told the doctor what was wrong with me, what I needed to take, and what I needed to do for the rest of the day to get better. He said he was going to give me a medical certificate for the rest of the week off and I said “No way. I can’t do that.” I got a day off and used it to replace all the fluids I was losing. This is pleasant talk, right? Next!

I had to steal this graphic because it was so hilariously, horribly done. We couldn’t even make sure the text is actually ON the paper?

Something crappy happened over the weekend when one of the Facebook groups I am an administrator of went totally crazy. Apparently there was a post on it with a person who was looking for someone else to live with, in particular, another gay male. Being a group of over 150k people, some chimed in that it was wrong, and no one really cares about sexual orientation anymore and that it shouldn’t be allowed. Some militant person went crazy with the group’s original owner and totally ruined his weekend to the point when I think he got really upset and depressed from all the bullying. The person ended up waging a war because they were posting really disgusting things and getting their comments deleted and ended up getting themselves muted. (Of course, they left the group and then said that the admin kicked them out so it sounds more dramatic.) They were mad because they were getting silenced! Cyberbullied! They basically got their feelings and ego hurt because they can’t use non-abusive language and act civilised.

I don’t really get it though. Aren’t there other things to get upset about? Isn’t it someone’s choice whether they want to (or don’t want to) live with a gay person? Should someone be forced to live with someone that they don’t want to? To me, when you’re looking for accommodation and you’re going to have a room mate (housemate…), don’t you want that place to be harmonious? There are still people who feel safer living with other gay people and that’s fine. Some people don’t really care. I’d like to think that it’s not really an issue, but it’s an issue to some. They should be able to make the decision of who they want to live with.

I think that’s true on a lot of levels though. If someone doesn’t want to live with a chain smoker who insists that they can only smoke inside, should they be forced to deal with that? Wouldn’t it be better for everybody if that person finds a non-smoking household? Same goes with drugs, partying, age, gender, etc. Being militant about people who have preferences about who they live with, accomplishes nothing.

What is bad, however, is when people are denied available housing (ie: an empty house) because the people applying are a gay couple, they’re a certain race, religion, or something to that effect. Let’s face it. Some people are just dumb and afraid of the unknown and I think that’s sad. Discrimination happens and it really shouldn’t.

This was a little longer than I expected. Oops! I need to get myself ready to go. I hope this made sense and it’s basically a lot like dating. You have to be happy with who you live with. People are allowed to choose who they live with in shared accommodation. I’m not sure why some people don’t get that.

(And if you come across this post and you’re from the group, and you’re going to get pissy about it, my thoughts here don’t represent that group, so don’t harass them about it. Same goes for my employer(s).)

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